Let's back up for a minute - isn't this a beautiful picture of Heather. That smile, those dimples, that hair - she is simply beautiful. What is even more beautiful about Heather is her love for others and her positive attitude. She tries her best to protect others. She doesn't want anyone to worry about her. Well Heather, there is a village of people out there that love you, worry about you, and pray for you every day.
Oh how I wish the title of this blog was "Heather is pain free!!!!", or how about "Heather is working full-time and socializing with her friends." Never in a million years would I have guessed that Heather would be struggling with her health and that her work and social life would come to a screeching halt. Dramatic sounding I know, but what Heather is experiencing is neither fair nor normal. I mean really, who am I to judge or determine what is normal. I only know that normal doesn't mean dealing with pain 24/7. A normal life doesn't involve medical uncertainty. Sure in a normal day everyone experiences all the ups and downs that life has to offer, but each day shouldn't be a struggle to accomplish the simplest of tasks.
The last few months have been a struggle for Heather. She is extremely fatigued and sleeps a lot. She has energy for 30 minutes to a few hours, then she crashes and falls into a deep sleep. It is often hard to wake her and honestly, when she is sleeping I know she is getting some relief from her pain. People often ask if she is depressed. Well...... of course she is. I mean who wouldn't be. One day you are working for one of the top grossing restaurant groups in the country, working 10+ hour days with energy left over to socialize with your friends. Then suddenly, this is all taken away from you. To think it all began with one stupid"f?!?#$" tick bite. That's it. One dumb tick.
Never in a million years did I think that over 5 years later Heather would still be sick.
Never in a gazillion years did I think Heather would have a a team of neurologists and they would be doing genetic testing to look for a reason for her deteriorating condition. My emotional side was afraid to know the answer or even worse, to find out once again that they don't have a clue why she is so sick. My neurotic side worried about diseases and conditions that I don't even know about. What? That's right - that didn't make any sense. Either does Heather's deteriorating condition.
Dr. Lisa did some research later that night, then Dr. Lisa realized that once again she has no business trying to figure out what they are looking for. If you want to lose some sleep at night - try researching extremely rare neurological genetic disorders. Dr. Lisa, once again, decided to leave the research to the "real" Doctors.
The great news is that the genetic tests were all negative - for that we are beyond thankful.
In my own defense about digging for answers - the internet makes it very easy to find quick answers, but if you are looking for that gloom and doom diagnosis - you can certainly find that too. I remember after Heather was born and I was trying to come to terms with Heather being born so sick and requiring life saving surgery. So what did I do without the internet, well I drove to the NIH National Library of Medicine to do some research - that's right - this was LONG before the internet. The local libraries didn't have the scary information that I was trying to research.
Boy was I in over my head. These were real medical journals - not the fluffy internet WebMD articles you can read. Once again - I quickly realized I wasn't a medical Doctor. It's really hard when you want to know WHY this is happening. Sadly, with most medical conditions, we never know the why. I just want to know what we can do to help Heather.
My sweet Heather is tough. She tries her damn best to not let others see her in pain. She doesn't want anyone to worry about her But anyone that has seen Heather recently can see it in her face, you see it in the way her body moves, and you can hear it in her voice. So please forgive us if she missed a social gathering or two in the last 5 years. Heather would have loved to join you, but it's just not always possible.
Now, given the current Covid virus - we too continue to practice social distancing.
Pray really really really hard for my Heather. Send her a message - but please don't fret or take it personally if you don't get a response. It's impossible to text when you are sleeping.
Heather and I want everyone to know that she appreciates all the love and concern. Heather is a survivor just as I know our country will survive this pandemic.
Stay safe my friends. Remember to always live, laugh, and love. I pray that you and your loved ones stay healthy.
xo
Lisa
My sweet Heather is tough. She tries her damn best to not let others see her in pain. She doesn't want anyone to worry about her But anyone that has seen Heather recently can see it in her face, you see it in the way her body moves, and you can hear it in her voice. So please forgive us if she missed a social gathering or two in the last 5 years. Heather would have loved to join you, but it's just not always possible.
Now, given the current Covid virus - we too continue to practice social distancing.
Pray really really really hard for my Heather. Send her a message - but please don't fret or take it personally if you don't get a response. It's impossible to text when you are sleeping.
Heather and I want everyone to know that she appreciates all the love and concern. Heather is a survivor just as I know our country will survive this pandemic.
Stay safe my friends. Remember to always live, laugh, and love. I pray that you and your loved ones stay healthy.
xo
Lisa